Cold Showers (Part 4) – Anxiety

Toronto Lake Ice“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

~ William James

This past February in Toronto was a record-breaking month. We not only had the coldest days in years but the most consecutive days below zero degrees Celsius. Family day weekend reached a staggering minus 41 degrees Celsius (includes wind chill). As crazy as this weather was I continued to take cold showers each morning before going to work. Was it easy? Absolutely not.

We all know that feeling of waking up in the morning and being extremely comfortable and cozy under our bed sheets. Often the thought of having to take the sheets off of our warm bodies is bad or tough enough to surrender to. Now imagine thinking about taking a cold shower while lying there in your bed. I cannot express how difficult this feeling is to overcome. Why? What is this feeling?

ANXIETY!

Anxiety is a terrible state of being. You feel worried about something that is going to happen in the future. In order not to feel this inner turmoil, people will often avoid situations which provoke it. And this is another key reason why I continued to take cold showers during this extreme weather. Again, I viewed this as an opportunity to overcome a greatly debilitating emotional state. By putting myself in a position to feel anxiousness often, I began to learn from it…understand it…embrace it…and finally, to conquer it.

I learned that anxiety occurs even when there is no real danger eminent.

I understand now that certain thoughts about a future situation trigger my anxiety.

Knowing that my thoughts have the power to change my inner state of being, I can embrace my anxiousness with loving and compassionate thoughts.

And finally, I know I can conquer anxiety by changing my thoughts about any future situation.

Whether it’s stage fright, an important exam or an interview for your dream job, you must be able to overcome this troublesome state of being if you want to succeed in life. Take control of your thoughts and only envision the best or your ideal outcome. To do otherwise is not only a waste of time but it will stir up feelings of anxiousness and cause you to freeze in moments where you need to shine. What’s ironic is that I used this cold shower experience, along with this freezing weather, to unfreeze me from my anxiety. You can too!

Always envision greatness,

Sal Crispo

The Golden Intangibles

GoldenLovePeaceJoy“The real things of life, such as peace, harmony, integrity, security, and happiness are intangible. They come from the Deep Self of man. Meditating on these qualities builds these treasures of heaven in our subconscious. ‘It is where moth and rust do not consume, and where thieves do not break through and steal.’ MATT. 6:20.”

~ Dr. Joseph Murphy (excerpt from The Power of Your Subconscious Mind)

The above excerpt is a reminder that every real thing we desire lies within us. No one can give us these intangible things and at the same time, no one can take them away. This truth is very empowering for those who are willing to accept self-responsibility and self-governance. The self-directed person does not blame others for their lack of peace or for their unhappiness, etc., instead they look within for answers. How can I stop sabotaging my own happiness and peace of mind and bring more of these intangibles into my life?

This truth may be difficult to accept for some people as taking self-responsibility is not easy. It is a lot easier to blame the circumstances (people, places and things) in our external world than to face the darkness we carry within and admit that here lies the cause of most of our troubles. As I teach in my book, there is a Light shining brightly within each of us (a Light which we all share). If our ego is unhealthy, the Light gets blocked and our outer world is darkened. For this reason, the health of the ego is paramount to creating a life full of peace, joy and love.

To create a life full of Light, you must first examine your ego. Do your current, dominant thoughts, beliefs and perspectives bring you lasting peace, joy and love, etc.? If they don’t then no matter what happens around you, you will not live with these things for long. From time to time you may experience peace, love and joy to a certain degree, but none will endure if your ego prevents the Light from shining through. After examining your ego, replace all unhealthy ego traits with healthy ones. I understand it will take a lot of time to inspect and then change all of your unhealthy dominating thoughts, beliefs, and perspectives but the rewards for doing this are immeasurable. This work is where your greatest treasure lies – the golden intangibles.

Please meditate and journal on the excerpt given as well as the questions I proposed in this blog post. Thank you.

Let your Light shine through,

Sal Crispo

Always, Always Nurture

Nurture“Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.”

~ Lao Tzu

 
This is the 3rd and final post of this series – 2015 resolutions. In the first and second post, I expressed two concepts to help you achieve your resolutions. To summarize, resolutions require a lot of time and effort therefore, do not focus on instantaneous results but focus on planting high-quality seeds (decisions) every day. Furthermore, high quality decisions are often very unpopular decisions so be prepared to overcome any negative influences which may try to deter you from achieving your resolution. Now I will give you the third concept and that is to always nurture your decisions with accurate thinking and affirmative action.

I give a detailed explanation of accurate thinking and affirmative action in my book, One Habit At A Time. They are 2 of the 9 habits I teach in the book and they are the ultimate nurtures of goals, resolutions and dreams.

Thoughts are either creative or destructive so you must ensure that they are in line with your purpose. If you decide to lose weight, earn more money or find romantic love and at the same time, your dominant thoughts are that you cannot achieve these things then you are destined for failure. Therefore, you have to be mindful of your thinking processes and belief structures. Making unpopular decisions will often stir up many negative thoughts and emotions you have buried inside you.

For some of you the following may sting a little but almost always – YOU ARE YOUR OWN WORST ENEMY.

Don’t believe me?

Try this exercise. I want you to get up, look at yourself in the mirror and state something which you believe would be out of reach for you to achieve such as:

“In 1 year… I will earn 10 times my current income or I will be featured in a fitness magazine or I will find an incredible person that will love me for who I really am, etc.”

The more personally outrageous the claim, the more inner garbage will surface. This is your enemy. The garbage is what keeps you from moving forward and achieving seemingly unreachable successes. Until you begin to clean up these toxic thoughts and belief structures, your pursuits will be hindered. You must think you can, with your entire being, before you can accomplish any extraordinary feat.

If you do not think or believe you can achieve your resolution then naturally, your actions toward your resolve will be weak. Affirmative action is the opposite. You know you can and will achieve your resolution so all your actions become powerful and nurture your resolution – even the mistakes or setbacks. Why? Mistakes become part of the growing processes and all setbacks are only temporary for those who believe they can. With affirmative action, you always have your sights set on nurturing your resolution and when the opportunity to acts arises, you act accordingly. For instance, if your resolution is to be fitter, you would take the stairs instead of the escalators when the opportunity presents itself. Most of the time, it’s that simple.

If you have not made a resolution for this year then I encourage to make one now. It’s not too late. Are you still not sure what to do? Based on the exercise we did earlier, what extraordinary feat brings up the most fear and doubt in you? Maybe you could start there?

I wish you all an incredible journey of growth and success!

Keep nurturing your endeavours,

Sal Crispo

Unpopular Decisions

ToughDecisionsAhead“Sometimes, in order to follow our moral compass and/or our hearts, we have to make unpopular decisions or stand up for what we believe in.”

~ Tabatha Coffey

 
I hope you are all still striving toward achieving your resolutions. Remember, as I mentioned in my previous post, this is a long endeavour so do not focus on immediate results but on the quality of the seeds you plant each day. The seeds we plant are the decisions we make. The better our daily decisions are, the greater the return will be in the future. This is not a theory but a Universal law.

Resolutions demand different and better decisions. For example; if your resolution is to be a healthier version of your current self then your decisions from now on must be different and better than the choices you have made up until this point. I am not going to sugar coat the prior statement and tell you that it is going to be easy. These new and improved decisions require a great deal of will-power and effort, especially in the beginning stages. Why? Well one of the main reasons is that the best decisions are frequently not the most popular.

If you want to rise above the status quo then you will have to make a lot of unpopular decisions. It means making different choices than most of the people around you will make. They know and are comfortable with the old you so your new decisions can make them feel uncomfortable. They will question and challenge your resolve. You may be laughed at and ridiculed. They may try to discourage you in varies ways. Be prepared for this response. Do not let them influence you negatively. Stand strong in your resolve and carry on with your new decisions. Whether others accept this new you is their decision not yours. The people who truly love you will stand with you in your evolution. They will support you in your endeavours any way they can.

Can you completely stand behind your good decisions and stand up to your mother…your father…your spouse…your friends or anyone else who tries to influence you otherwise?

In order to succeed, you must!

Keep moving forward,

Sal Crispo

Time for Change and Growth in 2015!

New Year 2015“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.”

~ Robert Louis Stevenson

The beginning of the year is a great time for inspiration and for change. Deep down we all have the desire to shine brighter, to express ourselves more fully and to make the most of ourselves. For this reason, most of us decide to challenge ourselves with resolutions. Resolutions offer the opportunity for growth. They help us to expand our comfort zones and our so called “limits”.

Each year I set a resolution. Yes only one and that’s because, to me, a resolution is different than a goal. I see goals as something smaller. A goal can be reached in a day, a week or a month but a resolution will often take much longer as more effort and time for growth are required. For the past several years, I set a resolution which was more challenging than the previous year and I successfully accomplished every single one of them. However, 2014 was different. How? Well, I decided to take my challenge to an outrageous level. And guess what?

I didn’t accomplish my 2014 resolution yet.

Does this mean I failed? Should I give up? Of course not. I have planted all the right seeds to make my 2014 resolution materialize. Yes the harvest has yet to appear but as long as I continue to plant and nurture the seeds of growth, I will inevitably reap the rewards. Furthermore, the amount of inner growth I have gained in 2014, the intangible harvest so to speak, is worth just as much (if not more than) the tangible rewards I look forward to receiving. Please keep this in mind with your own personal resolutions.

Resolutions are not just about achieving something great. They help us grow and become a greater version of ourselves. In other words, don’t just think about the weight you want to lose or the money you wish to earn, think about the person you will become as you strive for and achieve your resolution. How will you feel? How will you act? How will you treat yourself and others? How bright will your inner light shine? How passionately will you live your life?

Maybe you can start living this way now? :)

Wishing you all a joyous, peaceful, healthy and successful 2015!

Sal Crispo

Self-responsibility

CarlJungQuoteLast night I had an interesting dream. I was walking through some sort of party and I came across a guy who looked at me strangely, almost as if he knew me. So I smiled at him and said “hello”. He smiled back and reached out to shake my hand. I shook his hand and noticed that he could hardly stay up on his feet. He was extremely drunk. I asked him if he needed some help and he said, “yes, can you wait for me until my friend gets back?” He was afraid of passing out. “Of course I will”, I replied. Continue reading

Motherhood: The Most Difficult Job in the World!

Mom JugglingI find it very disappointing when a stay-at-home mom is embarrassed to tell others of her line of work. Unfortunately, we live in a society today where this job is so underrated and undervalued. I do not understand how this has happened as I believe mothering is the most demanding and important job in the world. They are the ones who raise us and instill most of our constructive habits. Without Mothers, this world would completely fall apart. Continue reading

Shower Power!

Lao Tzu QuoteThe mind, just like the body and soul, should not be neglected. When you wake up in the morning, do you wash your body? Do you brush your teeth? What happens if you don’t? Obviously you will stink. Now imagine going to work in this condition. How could you work with others or meet with clients? Do you think you would make a great impression if you were out on a date with a special person? As you can easily see, not cleansing your body can have an endless amount of negative repercussions. In the same way, not cleansing your mind on a daily basis can be disastrous. Continue reading

Learn It Then Earn It

“The world does not pay men (people) for that which they “know”. It pays them for what they do, or induce others to do.”
~Napoleon Hill

Knowledge is power when it is applied. You would be surprised at how often this truth is overlooked or forgotten. There is nothing more important to success than taking action and applying what you know. For instance, almost everyone knows that exercise or drinking an ample supply of water are very important for their health, yet many people fail to do both of these actions on a daily basis. Just knowing exercise can get you fit, will not get you fit. You must exercise in order to benefit from this knowledge.

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Associate With Positive People!

“We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us.”

~ Virginia Satir

All too often, I see people living small because they allow the negative people that surround them to influence their way of living. Unfortunately, there are a lot of negative influences in our lives that we have to deal with on a daily basis. These influences can come in many forms such as a person (or group of people), the internet, a newspaper, television, etc. For now, I will focus solely on the negative influence of certain people. A negative person can be anyone in your life such as a family member, friend or colleague. Continue reading