“Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.”
~ Lao Tzu
This is the 3rd and final post of this series – 2015 resolutions. In the first and second post, I expressed two concepts to help you achieve your resolutions. To summarize, resolutions require a lot of time and effort therefore, do not focus on instantaneous results but focus on planting high-quality seeds (decisions) every day. Furthermore, high quality decisions are often very unpopular decisions so be prepared to overcome any negative influences which may try to deter you from achieving your resolution. Now I will give you the third concept and that is to always nurture your decisions with accurate thinking and affirmative action.
I give a detailed explanation of accurate thinking and affirmative action in my book, One Habit At A Time. They are 2 of the 9 habits I teach in the book and they are the ultimate nurtures of goals, resolutions and dreams.
Thoughts are either creative or destructive so you must ensure that they are in line with your purpose. If you decide to lose weight, earn more money or find romantic love and at the same time, your dominant thoughts are that you cannot achieve these things then you are destined for failure. Therefore, you have to be mindful of your thinking processes and belief structures. Making unpopular decisions will often stir up many negative thoughts and emotions you have buried inside you.
For some of you the following may sting a little but almost always – YOU ARE YOUR OWN WORST ENEMY.
Don’t believe me?
Try this exercise. I want you to get up, look at yourself in the mirror and state something which you believe would be out of reach for you to achieve such as:
“In 1 year… I will earn 10 times my current income or I will be featured in a fitness magazine or I will find an incredible person that will love me for who I really am, etc.”
The more personally outrageous the claim, the more inner garbage will surface. This is your enemy. The garbage is what keeps you from moving forward and achieving seemingly unreachable successes. Until you begin to clean up these toxic thoughts and belief structures, your pursuits will be hindered. You must think you can, with your entire being, before you can accomplish any extraordinary feat.
If you do not think or believe you can achieve your resolution then naturally, your actions toward your resolve will be weak. Affirmative action is the opposite. You know you can and will achieve your resolution so all your actions become powerful and nurture your resolution – even the mistakes or setbacks. Why? Mistakes become part of the growing processes and all setbacks are only temporary for those who believe they can. With affirmative action, you always have your sights set on nurturing your resolution and when the opportunity to acts arises, you act accordingly. For instance, if your resolution is to be fitter, you would take the stairs instead of the escalators when the opportunity presents itself. Most of the time, it’s that simple.
If you have not made a resolution for this year then I encourage to make one now. It’s not too late. Are you still not sure what to do? Based on the exercise we did earlier, what extraordinary feat brings up the most fear and doubt in you? Maybe you could start there?
I wish you all an incredible journey of growth and success!
Keep nurturing your endeavours,