Unpopular Decisions

ToughDecisionsAhead“Sometimes, in order to follow our moral compass and/or our hearts, we have to make unpopular decisions or stand up for what we believe in.”

~ Tabatha Coffey

 
I hope you are all still striving toward achieving your resolutions. Remember, as I mentioned in my previous post, this is a long endeavour so do not focus on immediate results but on the quality of the seeds you plant each day. The seeds we plant are the decisions we make. The better our daily decisions are, the greater the return will be in the future. This is not a theory but a Universal law.

Resolutions demand different and better decisions. For example; if your resolution is to be a healthier version of your current self then your decisions from now on must be different and better than the choices you have made up until this point. I am not going to sugar coat the prior statement and tell you that it is going to be easy. These new and improved decisions require a great deal of will-power and effort, especially in the beginning stages. Why? Well one of the main reasons is that the best decisions are frequently not the most popular.

If you want to rise above the status quo then you will have to make a lot of unpopular decisions. It means making different choices than most of the people around you will make. They know and are comfortable with the old you so your new decisions can make them feel uncomfortable. They will question and challenge your resolve. You may be laughed at and ridiculed. They may try to discourage you in varies ways. Be prepared for this response. Do not let them influence you negatively. Stand strong in your resolve and carry on with your new decisions. Whether others accept this new you is their decision not yours. The people who truly love you will stand with you in your evolution. They will support you in your endeavours any way they can.

Can you completely stand behind your good decisions and stand up to your mother…your father…your spouse…your friends or anyone else who tries to influence you otherwise?

In order to succeed, you must!

Keep moving forward,

Sal Crispo

Guidance from a Little Guru!

DaddysLittleGuru“I am so clever that sometimes I don’t understand a single word of what I am saying.”

~Oscar Wilde

I know I haven’t written a post here in a long time. I was too busy healing. Since my last post in August 2013, over a year ago, I have been on quite the roller coaster ride. I cannot share everything that has occurred because I respect the privacy of others. All I can say is that I am very grateful for everything that life has brought me. As difficult as it has been, it has made me who I am today – a person able to live freely and authentically without reservation or hesitation.

Why begin writing again now and why this quote? Last weekend, my beautiful 5 year old boy Julian was over and I read him a great quote that I saw in a calendar which stated; “Never bet against a person who won’t quit.” After explaining the meaning of the quote to him, he absolutely loved it. I then showed him my thought-of-the-week board. For years, I would write a thought of the week up on a whiteboard in my exercise studio (but I also stopped writing these since August 2013). He immediately encouraged me to write the quote up on the whiteboard so I did and I admit, it felt great to do this again. This weekend he said; “Dad we have to put up a new thought of the week.” Bless his precious heart. I think pretty soon he may even take over this blog. :)

Anyway, today we read through some quotes together and he chose this one above from Oscar Wilde because it made him laugh. I know he is only 5 but he is wise beyond his years – my little guru. This boy has seen his family break apart and yet, he continues to shine brighter and brighter with each passing day. For me, he has become a constant reminder of how life should be lived. And because I feel most alive when I teach, I have decided to blog more frequently again.

Thanks Julian!

From your loving Father,

Sal Crispo

Self-responsibility

CarlJungQuoteLast night I had an interesting dream. I was walking through some sort of party and I came across a guy who looked at me strangely, almost as if he knew me. So I smiled at him and said “hello”. He smiled back and reached out to shake my hand. I shook his hand and noticed that he could hardly stay up on his feet. He was extremely drunk. I asked him if he needed some help and he said, “yes, can you wait for me until my friend gets back?” He was afraid of passing out. “Of course I will”, I replied. Continue reading

Don’t Hate, Debate

DebateNotHateOne day I was talking to a colleague and she asked me if I would like to support Breast Cancer Research with a donation. I politely said no thank you. Now I had my reasons but I kept them to myself because I know it can be a touchy subject. However, she insisted that I share my reasons and so I did. As I began to list my reasons, she freaked out and began to verbally attack me. She cried and accused me of not caring. She also said that I didn’t know how it felt to lose someone close to me from this disease as had happened to her. I felt terrible so I tried to explain myself, however, the more I tried, the worse the situation became. She told me never to speak to her again. Continue reading

Love Yourself First

“Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.”
~ Byron Katie

My beautiful wife was giving my son, who is almost 2 years old, a bath the other day and he did something that was so natural and pure. He just returned from getting a haircut and noticed himself in the bathroom mirror. His reaction was priceless. He smiled and said, “Oh wow, I love you Julian.” and then he repeatedly kissed himself in the mirror. This is a wonderful example and expression of self-love. Self-love, not to be confused with narcissism, is extremely healthy. Yet, how often do you hear someone declare their love for themselves? When was the last time you looked in the mirror and said, “I love you”? Instead, most people spend their entire lives looking in the mirror and seeing imperfections; I wish I was leaner, taller, prettier, and smarter, just to name a few. Doing this is not healthy.

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